If partner A earns $50,000/year and partner B works part-time outside the home or not at all, such that his efforts at home help to free up partner A's time so she can devote her attention to competing successfully within the job marketplace, the partners' respective contributions in terms of hours may be the same. If it is similar on a fairness scale, then is it really appropriate that partner A should be solely entitled to a $10,000 savings account she accumulated during the cohabitation when partner B worked only in the home and so did not have access to the dollar wages that could be tucked away?
You don't need to agree with this philosophical analysis, although it is the modern view, but perhaps these examples make it clear that cohabitation agreements include moral, ethical, and fairness considerations which deserve attention. These can be negotiated and compromised in an even handed manner that is respectful of and sensitive to the dignity and relative contribution of both cohabitants. Truly, if two partners enter a relationship where the underlying assumption is that only the partner who works for wages is bringing value into it, this is not an auspicious beginning.
2) Protecting assets, income, and wealth of both parties: Many people who utilize cohabitation agreements have previously been married and divorced, and have ongoing responsibilities for children or aging parents. They cannot afford the economic consequences of another break up and they want the companionship and benefits of a committed relationship.
In many cases the partners may have substantially equal assets and liabilities, or their relative net worths may not be too disproportionate. Two-earner households are more common today than ever before.
I call this variety of cohab contracts
'roadmap agreements.'
In California persons who cohabit who are not married or who are not domestic partners have no rights or obligations between themselves under the Family Code, assuming they have no children together. Their rights or obligations, if any, are determined solely by contract - and if there is no written contract it becomes very difficult to determine what people intended at the time they acquired what they acquired or did what they did. All kinds of claims can be made about verbal promises, and verbal agreements are enforceable when a Judge believes they exist.
Unmarried partners who have not been protected by a written agreement have no right to claim an interest in the other partner's property accumulated during the relationship, and they have no inheritance or
survivorship rights absent an existing will or trust.
Common law marriage is not recognized in California, unless it was first established in another state which does recognize it.
There are very good reasons to carefully draft and execute cohabitation agreements beyond trying to exclude the other partner from making a claim if the cohabitation ceases. It may be helpful to create a template for how the relationship can be disentangled in an orderly and equitable manner once it ends; however, it can be very useful to have a roadmap about how certain activities should be handled even in an intact relationship. Knowing one's rights in advance and having a formula for confirming them is always a smart thing which can positively affect decision-making.
3)
Creating Nonmarital Partnerships: Just as a cohabitation agreement can be designed to protect against creating
unintended rights in the other partner, so too it can be positively used to create protections that would otherwise not exist under the law. These are generally called
"pooling agreements".
If you create a
business partnership or
joint venture you do it with the expectation of generating profits, including the coequal sharing of an increase in the value of the partnership and whatever money is spun off and distributed from the partnership. Some people wish to do the same thing with their nonmarital cohabitation partnerships.
Is it any more wise to enter into a nonmarital cohabitation without any form of agreement than it is to enter a business partnership on a handshake? In these times lawyers must shake our heads in dismay when people proudly tell us that their word is their bond and that they make their deals on a handshake. While such sentiment is admirable, it is not realistic.
A cohabitation agreement can be used to specify what property and assets becomes joint and under what circumstances, what the proportionate joint interests are, what to do with debt, and what property is to become or remain separate as to one partner alone. It can be used to protect the partners in the event of death as to property that may be jointly owned but not jointly titled. It can create a structure for valuing and dividing assets that avoids litigation and high legal fees, not to mention hostility and resentment, upon termination of the joint living arrangement.
It can also be used to create certain rights and obligations of support under specified settings.
Whether family attorneys counsel a particular client to utilize a cohabitation agreement, as with
prenuptial or
premarital agreements, often depends upon who has - or who over time is anticipated to have - the larger economic power and financial resources in the relationship.
The obvious situation is where the economically better off person wants the security of the protections. The common assumption is that the person with wealth should always insist upon a cohab agreement, and that view is probably correct - the agreement, however, can become something much larger and more creative than simple property waivers.
Ironically, people with some degree of economic advantage often don't avail themselves of a cohabitation agreement because they feel embarrassed, uneasy, or frightened to ask the other about it, on the belief the other partner may be offended. In my experience people are only offended when the agreement runs in one direction.
If a woman with zero assets and little income seeks advice about how to structure her economic relationship with the man or woman she is about to move in with, a cohabitation agreement may or may not be in her best interest
depending upon the terms. It may come as a surprise, however, to learn that she will probably be far better off in all situations with one than without.
If one participant in a joint living arrangement is obsessed with acquiring and keeping all of the marbles, you are headed for trouble anyway. For me it is always best to admit that there is an elephant in the room. By placing these concerns on the table there is a huge potential freedom to address them in ways which are ignored when there is no agreement. People can be guided into thinking about consequences they otherwise block out of their minds. This can nurture a positive beginning, rather than a beginning by default with neither person is talking about a multitude of what-if's. It provides an opportunity to honor both persons, and is not at all mutually exclusive with reasonable legal protections.
People rarely seek marital counseling outside the church or education before marrying. Similarly they rarely give much thought to how to structure their lives when they undertake living together outside of marriage.
Cohabitation agreements provide an amazing opportunity to consciously and mindfully embark upon a new relationship.
If you intend to share a household with a romantic partner other than only temporarily, my recommendation is that you always consider entering into a cohabitation agreement.
However, it is important that you locate counsel in your area who is not merely a traditional adversarial lawyer, because their resource toolbox for assisting you with all your issues tends to be relatively empty.
Thurman W. Arnold III
http://www.ThurmanArnold.com
4/23/10