Recent Posts in Procedures and Mechanics of Dissolutions Category

Q.    If I contest date of separation, what evidence do courts look at?

A.    The question for trial courts is: Does one or both spouses objectively and subjectively act and appear as though they intend a separation? It only takes one of the two, because either can legitimately harbor and intention to separate and finally terminate the relationship - consent to dissolution is not required in California.

Objective evidence of separation includes very prominently whether the spouses continue to live under the same roof. Spouses that do not maintain separate residences do not appear to be living separately, even where they are occupying different rooms within the same address. It becomes quite problematic for courts to determine what is going on inside the dwelling, and if they are still maintaining intimate relations, and family courts desire to avoid the "liar's contests" that so often accompany the stories of couples whose interests have diverged.  

The fact of filing a dissolution, itself, has been found by appellate courts to be insufficient to prove physical separation as in a case where the husband filed, but went off on a international speaking tour for two years and then returned, who discovered in the court's view the marriage had continued all along.

In another case, the husband moved out to live with his girlfriend, but brought his laundry home to the wife each week to do every week. This was not a physical separation.

A separation to be effective needs to reflect a final breakup in the marriage. Ambivalent, on and off again, spouses are difficult to evaluate but the court is always going to error on the side of finding the parties have not separated if the evidence is inconclusive. This is because the policy of the law is to promote marriage, and court's are reluctant to second guess parties who fail to act with exquisite clarity. Reconciliation is a related topic, and where it is found to exist downstream (so called 'serial relationships' of get mad and make up) it will wipe out an otherwise valid physical separation.  

Today, in this economy, the notion that parties must be living in two households in order to show convincing evidence of an intent to separate may be unrealistic and unfair. Many couples are forced by financial constraints to live at the same address, unfortunately loathing most or every moment of it. This is a new development in the law of physical separation in California, and may lead to some new appellate court decisions which liberalize the existing standards, and most notably the holding of the case of Marriage of Norviel.  Norviel is a middle level appellate decision which is not binding on California Trial Courts, but may be followed by them as the judges feel is appropriate. That decision essentially requires that the parties, if they want to be considered separated, must: 

• Clearly communicate the intent to separate to the other mate and everyone else you both know
• Move out physically or physically partition the house (nail the doors between rooms shut!) 
• Divide financial accounts, including joint checking and credit accounts (cancel joint cards) 
• Decline marital counseling 
• Cancel prepaid vacations and do not take trips together 
• Don't take your laundry "home" 
• Don't date your spouse and don't be intimate 
• Tell anybody who asks the marriage is toast and you are filing for divorce 
• File for dissolution 
• Still expect to lose the issue if you don't move the divorce forward, earlier rather than later

Fortunately, there are other cases which trial courts can follow which are not nearly so draconian if circumstances are different but nonetheless convincingly demonstrate a final and complete break in the marital relationship.

By the way, when date of separation has important consequences - which may happen when characterization of property as community or separate is required - consider bifurcating that issue so that it can be tried and decided early on.

The take away from all of this is: You cannot have your cake and eat it too!  Beware, and be clear or assume the risk.

• Rule 5.93 relating to attorney fee and cost applications, which identifies the steps for a litigant or court to take in requesting, responding to a request for, and awarding fees and costs based upon financial need;

• Approve optional form FL-157, Spousal or Partner Support Declaration Attachment, for litigants to use, as an attachment to the Request for Attorney's Fees and Costs Attachment (form FL-319), Declaration for Default or Uncontested Judgment (form FL-170), Application for Order (form FL-310) and Order to Show Cause (form FL-300) or Notice of Motion (form FL-301) to request that the court award, modify a request, or deny a request for spousal or domestic partner support and to provide supporting facts that address the issuesidentified in Family Code section 4320, which are also required in a request for attorney's fees and costs;

• Approve optional form FL-158, Supporting Declaration for Attorney's Fees and Costs Attachment , for litigants to use, as an attachment to Request for Attorney's Fees and Costs Attachment (form FL-319) or Responsive Declaration to Order to Show Cause or Notice of Motion (form FL-320), to provide the court with additional background information either in support of or in opposition to a request for needs-based attorney's fees and costs, such as any history of child support, spousal or partner support, or family support orders;

• Approve optional form FL-319, Request for Attorney's Fees and Costs Attachment, for litigants to use, as an attachment to the Application for Order (form FL-310) and Order to Show Cause (form FL-300) or Notice of Motion (form FL-301), to request that the court award needs-based attorney's fees and costs;

• Approve optional form FL -346 Attorney's Fees and Costs Order Attachment , for the court to use, as an attachment to Findings and Order After Hearing (form FL-340), Judgment (form FL-180), or Judgment (Uniform Parentage-Custody and Support) (form FL-250), to identify court findings and orders with respect to needs-based attorney's fees and costs; and

• Revise mandatory form FL-340, Findings and Order After Hearing , to improve organization and numbering, add clarifying language in item 1, add a reference to "parenting time" in item 2, add "Other" check boxes in items 2-6, add a check box for the court to attach new form FL-346 (see item 5 of this recommendation) in item 6, and add a check box for the court to order a continuance in item 9.

Working with Family Court Judges

I recently attended this year's annual AFCC (Association of Family and Conciliation Courts) Conference in Orlando. Two Canadian jurists put on a workshop entitled "Dealing With Difficult Judges," and they kindly gave their permission to share their materials with you. Many thanks to the Honorable Carole Curtis and to the Honorable Roselyn Zisman - both family court judges within the Ontario Court of Justice system. I summarize their observations and suggestions here, and add a few of my own.

As these two bench officers point out, judges like the rest of us can be difficult and reactive at times, and it can be quite challenging for attorneys and pro se litigants to know how to prepare for, and best behave within, the sometimes edgy or emotional atmosphere of family courtrooms. This tension, if not understood or managed correctly, can have negative consequences in terms of outcomes and more. My intention is not to imply criticism of our bench officers. Being an effective judge day in and day out requires vast knowledge and a patience and equanimity that would challenge even a Mahatma Gandhi.

I hope to have a frank discussion about how lawyers and self-represented parties might consider presenting their cases - or in working with cranky judges - in ways that are dignified and productive. My hope is to improve the civility and professionalism of the family court experience for all affected, and to help unrepresented parties to have a fairer access to justice.

Here are some pointers for how not to aggravate your family court judge or commissioner and a few thoughts about what to do if that happens, despite your best efforts. The opinions expressed herein are not one size fits all. I also want to start a dialogue about how to make the job of family law judges easier for them, or - to put it another way - to discuss a bit about how we might help them to help us.

Suggestions for Interacting With Family Court Judges

• Rule #1: Be Prepared

Judges have little patience with attorneys, and pro pro litigants, who aren't prepared when they enter the courtroom. Many litigants don't seem to know what they are asking the court to do, why they are asking for it, and what the best legal or factual grounds are for the orders requested. Courts everywhere, but particularly here in California with the passage of Family Code section 217 (which requires live testimony hearings upon request), are grossly overburdened. Judicial resources are not sufficient to meet demand in these budgetary times, and this places a pressure and premium on directness and efficiency. Economic limitations can also make judges a lot crankier than if they had reasonable and adequate time and resources to manage their caseload and calendars.

Depending on County size, wealth and population, California Family Law Judges typically have between 20 and 35 or more matters on their morning calendars. In the afternoons they are often holding evidentiary hearings for the more conflicted OSC/Law and Motion litigants, or have blocked off afternoons for trials. If they are to move through these calendars by the end of the morning, brevity and efficiency becomes exceedingly important. When do we expect that they will find the time to read what is contained in possibly more than 30 files before taking the bench to listen to oral presentations and cross-examination? For the more diligent judges the answer may be evenings and weekends. Which is often when hard working lawyers likewise find the extra time that they need to prepare for hearings and trial.

Therefore, one of the biggest mistakes that agitates judges is parties or lawyers who aren't prepared and can't present their cases with clarity. If, as a lawyer who is directly paid to identify and communicate the justness of your client's position, you don't appear to care overmuch about your client's case then why should our judges care? Lack of preparation, especially for lawyers, is a cardinal sin.

• Rule #2: Be Prepared For This Particular Judge

In jurisdictions with direct calendar assignments, where a judge is assigned to a case for all purposes or for all purposes possibly until the case is reassigned for trial, learn about the particular bench officer(s) who presides over your case. The more you know the better. Information allows you to make useful assumptions about a particular judge's attitudes and policies.

As Judges Curtis and Zisman note, the best judicial officers are predictable and consistent in their rulings. "A judge's value to the public as a judge is in direct proportion to the ability of the lawyers who frequent the court to predict how the judge will deal with a particular issue." I find this to be so true in my personal experience. Lawyers who know how judges tend to rule on a given issue can with confidence set their client's expectations realistically. Armed with such knowledge, both sides are in a better position to have productive settlement discussions that avoid a "crapshoot" and the associated risks and expense. Moreover, they don't waste time potentially infuriating bench officers with weak arguments that judges may made known that they rarely accept.

Lawyers who are active practitioners in any given court usually have good insights into local judge's attitudes. They may also be aware of information about a judge that is not generally available to the public, like their expertise, practice focus, and reputation before they took the bench. Knowing that while a lawyer your judge participated in a case that generated a published appellate decision on a move-away case, for instance, could provide you a wealth of ideas on how to tailor your presentation. Likewise, knowing whether a judge has been reversed is useful for making sensitive presentations.

Pro per litigants should consider observing a judge going through her calendar over the course of one or more days. You will learn tons about their judicial attitude from watching them in open court, and indeed you may witness other parties get scolded or reprimanded for missteps and so avoid the same mistakes. A simple but classic example is the family court litigant who brings a small retinue of family members who are there to provide familial support, some of whom cannot sit still without gasping, shaking their heads violently, or sobbing.

• Rule #3: Notify the Court If the Case Will Be Continued the Day Before

Sometimes one or both attorneys or parties intend to seek a continuance of a hearing, possibly because they want to discuss settlement but often because one or both are not ready to proceed or has late papers to submit.

Different judges have very different attitudes towards continuances, particularly where they have already invested the time reading the materials and then are faced with a continuance request. Lawyers who know that a case will not proceed are well advised to contact the courtroom clerk at least a day in advance to give a head's up - otherwise, they may wind up with a judge who justifiably feels "put out" and therefore cranky. Some allow self-represented parties to give advance notice of agreed upon continuances, but the other side will need to confirm it. Often messages must be left on the clerk's answering machine, and you may not know in advance whether they were received or acted upon.

Where both sides have attorneys and a particular judge is known to permit it, counsel should always let the court know one or even two days in advance that the hearing is not expected to proceed that day.

• Rule #4: Look At the Local Court Rules, If Any, and the California Rules of Court

Some counties or individual courts have local rules; many do not. Most judges have their own rules and styles, often never to be found in written form. It never hurts to ask the Court clerk, when the judge is off the bench, whether that courtroom follows any specific preferences, customs, or rules of procedures. 

The state-wide source for procedural rules impacting California Family Law (and Juvenile cases) are the California Rules of Court, beginning with Rule 5.100. Rule 5.118 is one of the immediately most important, since it deals with initiating common OSC and Motion requests for custody, support, etc. These rules apply to all family law matters in all California courtrooms.

The Riverside County Local Rules pertaining to Family Law cases can be found here. Start with Title 5. I discuss these in more detail below. The Los Angeles Family Court Rules can be accessed here. Basically you ought to go to the County website where your case is filed and look for the local rules for that particular venue. If they exist you will be well served to review them for relevant tips and local policies. 

• Rule #5: Talk to the Judge, Not the Other Party or Lawyer

The time to discuss your case or argue with the other side is before you enter the courtroom. It drives judges nuts when two lawyers, two pro se parties, or any combination of them begin to argue at counsel table as though the judge was not present. Keep your focus on the judge, and generally avoid looking at the other party except for emphasis. Never address them directly.

A very important related concept is that if you bring witnesses or support people in the courtroom, tell them in advance to keep control of themselves. This means no interruptions, no head shaking or head nodding, no gasps, and no agitated movements. It is natural that the people your bring to the hearing have a some degree of investment in the outcome. However, when these people act in an uncontrolled fashion, that may affect the court's evaluation of you. Thorough lawyers always remind clients and the support people who accompany them to maintain a even demeanor and not to speak unless spoken to.

• Rule #6: Never Assume the Court Has Read the File, and Never Ask

Judges can be easily overwhelmed at times for any number of practical or personal reasons. Never assume the Court has read your pleadings, but at the same time it is pointless to ask him if he has. Asking the question not only embarrasses the court, if they answer that they have not read it and you wind up getting what you wanted, you are inviting an appeal since appellate courts in California have reversed trial courts for ruling on matters where they've admitted on the record they've not read the file.

Instead, start your presentation as though the Judge has not read the materials. Most judges will interrupt you to advise you when they have read it. Be nimble. At the same time, understand that the court only has enough time to listen to summaries of information, not the entire case. You need to know in advance what your highlights are soundbites are, and they should be presented in as orderly a way as possible. Having outlined these in advance is very helpful in the heat of the moment, where you become distracted by some exchange you did not expect and must return your focus to your goals. Outline your highlights on a notepad in a way that a given sentence triggers your memory of the remaining points you wish to make.

• Rule #7: Make It Easy for the Judge

• Rule #8: Avoid Head-Butting With the Judge (and the Other Side)

Whether or not a judge seems difficult or cranky, it does not help to get into a head-butting contest with him or her because you just can't win it. Head-butting may be a "kiss of death" for an advocate; the issues themselves have degenerated into an ego contest, and if you are in court to serve your ego you will likely have an unpleasant outcome. Remember, people are watching, including court staff. The Judge not only knows that she is the supreme power in the courtroom, she has her dignity to protect. Confrontations with judges suggests a battle between equals, and you are not equal. It also implies a winner and a loser. If you head-butt with a Judge, you are asking them to prove to everyone present who is in control. That usually ensures that you will be shown to be the loser for the simple reason that finding in your favor may then imply that you are in control.

Head-butting might well begin with an attitude on the part of the judge. If this occurs, move into "damage control." Immediately lower your tone. Avoid flailing hands or arms. Speak evenly, slowly, and respectfully. This may defuse the situation before it becomes impossible to redeem. As Judges Curtis and Zisman put it "You must do whatever you can to end this contest. Consider a retreat, whatever that means in the circumstances. Move your reaction into this range...:  be calm, be measured, be focused, and be polite (be unfailingly polite)." With a particularly difficult judge, the hotter it gets the calmer you must become.

A cautionary note here: Many judges I know respect an advocate or a person who will stand up to them, and not simply fold because there may be some debate. So much depends upon your tone and style even as you perhaps stubbornly, but calmly, present your arguments or evidence. Hence, do not take these suggestions as meaning that if the judge seems to disagree with you that you should become silent. It is how you convey your message that often matters most.

Be persistent, unless it becomes obvious that the Court has heard enough. Often judges will tell you this.This can become a real problem if you have not had the opportunity to make "a record" for purposes of a possible appeal (something you never want, but sometimes must consider).  If you are foreclosed from making a record, you should note that respectfully before quitting.

Similarly, it is usually pointless to argue with a judge once they have ruled on any given matter, but if you feel there is more to say and you are uncertain whether the judge has heard as much as she will, you might try "Your Honor, before the court moves on, might I add one more thing?" 

• Rule #9: Never Lie to the Court

It is amazing to me how often attorneys will intentionally misstate facts to the court, or create inflammatory arguments that has little basis in fact. I am sad to tell you this happens a lot, and in fact this is one reason why divorce attorneys may be viewed as bottom feeders. Yet, this is only a small, if vocal, segment of the legal practitioner population. Similarly, parties in relationship disputes are highly motivated to misrepresent information for more directly obvious reasons. 

As a advocate, one of the most important things that lawyers possess is their reputations. Judges who will talk about it will candidly admit that they are every bit a catty lot as the next person or profession. The talk in chambers, they talk in lunchrooms, they talk in restaurants, they talk in meetings amongst themselves. One of the common topics is about the lawyers who come into their courtrooms. Their views about particular attorneys' reputations can be infectious within the judicial community, which is not to suggest that they do not attempt to remain impartial on a case by case basis. It is true that sometimes it feels that attorneys who too freely spin the facts get away with it. This is one reason I am a proponent of monetary sanctions against attorneys directly, something I suggest in my Davenport Blog. One consequence of unaccountability is that opposing sides, and unrepresented parties, take their cues from the lawyers they come into contact with and mimic bad behavior of those they observe. The behavior of legal professionals matters. terrible message to send. There are so many reasons why it is imperative that lawyers not be deceitful.

Never lie to the Court, whether you are a lawyer or a party. Once a judge gets fixed on the idea that your information is untrustworthy it will pervade his view of you within your case, and is likely to haunt you. There are subtle and not so subtle ways of punishing litigants by imposing outcomes that can be catastrophic for your life, from fixing alimony or support orders above your level to pay to depriving you of time with your children. And, be advised, lawyers love it when the other party lies. This is exactly what can be seized upon to win their client's case, sometimes far more dramatically than when people just admit the weaknesses in their positions and move on.

• Rule #10: Don't Tell the Judge it is Obvious She's Already Made Up Her Mind

It does happen that lawyers and parties may find that the Court has prejudged the case before any oral presentation; an example being the circumstances identified above where the lawyer or litigant has lost all credibility. But at other times it can be very difficult to understand why a bench officer may seem to have already decided your case before you open your mouth.  

This is a tough one there may not be much that you can do about it. The advice of judges Curtis and Zisman is to stay calm and focused, and just keep going. Don't respond with something like well, "I can see your honor has already made up your mind," and don't otherwise communicate this with your body language, glares, or tone. This too can be a tall order. But on balance neither the client nor their case can be served in this fashion. For lawyers, my experience is that clients better appreciate the fact that you remained professional rather than snotty with the judge, because they will watch in real panic as their spokesperson begins to lose his or her poise. Similarly, they will know you did everything you could where you don't pour accelerant on the fire.

Judges Curtis and Zisman suggest that lawyers and parties need to know, under such circumstances, when to fold. They also need to know how to protect the record - that is what is said on the record that is recorded by the court reporter. As with the rude and abrasive judge discussed below, a good record for an appeal may be your only hope especially in jurisdictions that video or audio record the hearing, since tones of voice and sarcasm are often lost in a written hearing transcript. And, beware, I once had this happen with an extremely difficult Juvenile Court Judge (retired some years now) and so made a request for the written transcript (which was all that was available), and when I received it I found that major portions had been edited out entirely. Obviously the judge had instructed the court reporter to falsify the transcript, but how was I to prove it? I did manage to get a Writ of Mandate on appeal that removed the judge from future hearings in the case, and then won it in front of a much better judge at trial. BTW, proof that a judge has doctored the hearing transcript would almost certainly result in judicial discipline if proved, but that is can of worms I do not recommend since if your attack on the court fails that judge might actually make it their mission to ruin an attorney or their case.

• Rule #11: Don't Duke it Out With the Rude and Abrasive Judge

Unfortunately I witness this more than I care to admit as an observer at courthouses, although very rarely in my cases these days and one possible reason is that I usually know when to shut up. Judges Curtis and Zisman state "Some judges are rude, aggressive, even abusive, for no apparent reason, or at least none that justifies this behaviour. It is extremely important for the lawyer (or the party) to be calm, and to remain calm, polite, [and] focused." I quote them directly to reinforce that I am not one lawyer griping about judges; similarly, I have friends who are retired bench officers and they will admit that such conduct occurs, and even that at times they regrettably engaged in it. 

The goal of lawyers in such situations is, above all, to defuse the situation. This may seem an impossible task, particularly when it is our job to protect our clients. If the behavior is really so over the top that our clients are being abused we must object to such behavior.

All I can recommend to nonlawyers is that they not get sucked into such exchanges with the court, but that at the same time they politely and firmly stand their ground.

• Rule #12: Ideas for Coping With Judges Who Do Not Know Family Law

California matrimonial law is immensely complicated. Many lawyers who regularly practice in family court really have little clue what they are doing, in part because the simpler contests arise over and over again and many lawyers learn enough to deal with these simple situations but would be highly stressed on more complicated situations. Likewise, many family court lawyers have very little actual trial or even deposition experience. They don't know how to cross-examine witnesses. They only have a glancing familiarity with rules of evidence. Some of these lawyers actually go on to become judges. Others may be quite skilled in the criminal arena, for instance, where they were once prosecutors or public defenders. These judges were once real trial lawyers, but that doesn't mean they understand family law. Others may have been quite senior civil litigators who nonetheless rarely if ever handled these types of cases. 

Curtis and Zisman point out that this situation is actually more easily remedied than some of the others discussed here. They suggest that particularly when you know that a bench officer is not overly familiar with this area, that you adjust your presentation to ensure that you covering the basics. State what you are asking for, identify any statutory authority, and discuss the legal standards that apply. One of the reasons I blog so much is to popularize information to empower nonlawyers. Lawyers have lots of legal treatises to subscribe to and review (when they bother); the public generally does not have these so nearly accessible. I hope this website aids you. However, please remember, my blogs and articles are intended merely to be educational and it is impossible for me to guarantee their accuracy under any fact pattern. You have to do your own work and draw your own conclusions.

• Rule #13: What to Do With the Judge Who Hates Family Law

This is usually a function of judges who don't know family law although as you might suspect, a jurist who hates family law is likely not going to bother to learn it. The best way to overcome this problem is to be polite, be brief, and educate the court about what you want and why you are entitled to it. If you have no idea as to either, the judge who hates family law may become an abusive judge as well. Politely and firmly resist being rushed. But get your points in clearly.

• Rule #14: Cite Recent Authority Whenever Possible

• Moving and supporting papers (including the original Notice of Motion or Order to Show Cause application), must be served and filed 16 court days before the hearing date.

• However, add five days if the moving papers are not served personally but if instead they are sent by first-class regular mail from California to an address within this State (i.e., the proof of service must be dated at least 21 days before the hearing date).

• Add ten days instead if the place of mailing is outside of California or if the address to which the mail is being sent is outside the State.

• Add twenty days instead if the addressee resides, or the sender is serving from, outside the United States.

• If the recipient is outside the State, or the sender is out of state, but you serve by FAX, express mail, or another method of deliver providing for overnight delivery, add only two days.

• Opposition papers, like Responsive Declarations or Points and Authorities, must be filed with the Court and served at least nine court days prior to the hearing date.

• Reply papers, in response to opposition pleadings, must be filed and served at least five court days before the hearing.

• However, and importantly, note that  CCP §1005(c) requires that all Responsive Declarations (and other opposition paperwork) must be served by personal delivery, FAX, express mail, or other means sufficient to assure overnight service, "and reasonably calculated to ensure delivery to the other party or parties not later than the close of the next business day after the time the opposing papers or reply papers, as applicable, are filed". This includes all attachments or exhibits to those papers.

• This last point applies equally to Reply pleadings and supporting exhibits. A Reply must be filed with the Court clerk at least five court days before hearing - and the other party must actually receive it by the next day!

    "(a) At a hearing on any order to show cause or notice of motion brought pursuant to this code, absent a stipulation of the parties or a finding of good cause pursuant to subdivision (b), the court shall receive any live, competent testimony that is relevant and within the scope of the hearing and the court may ask questions of the parties.

    (b) In appropriate cases, a court may make a finding of good cause to refuse to receive live testimony and shall state its reasons for the finding on the record or in writing. The Judicial Council shall, by January 1, 2012, adopt a statewide rule of court regarding the factors a court shall consider in making a finding of good cause.

    (c) A party seeking to present live testimony from witnesses other than the parties shall, prior to the hearing, file and serve a witness list with a brief description of the anticipated testimony.

If the witness list is not served prior to the hearing, the court may, on request, grant a brief continuance and may make appropriate temporary orders pending the continued hearing."

Family Code section 217 will cause a sea-change in day to day family court proceedings across our state, unless family court judicial officers ignore it to the limited extent possible by court rules.  It will likely have immense financial and resource consequences upon not only the courts but upon parties to family court proceedings.  It will force the state government in coming years to study whole new paradigms for resolving divorce and domestic partnership dissolution outside the adversary template, including those currently practiced in New Zealand and southern Australia. 

It will also pressure parties to consider mediation, and collaborative processes which occur outside congested courthouses, much more carefully.  The costs of adversary litigation are about to sky-rocket, making mediation even more appealing from a financial perspective (I have written extensively about the emotional and psychological benefits here an elsewhere).  There simply is no governmental money available to absorb the coming Elkins Onslaught. For more information about an alternative method for resolving family disputes, please visit us at www.DesertFamilyMediationServices.com.
  
At the same time, at least in the short run taken together with some of the other revisions that become effective next month, it may encourage more people to litigate more stubbornly and so make mediation seem less attractive than it did before the changes (just the reverse will be true).  Some folks will mistakenly assume that this invites the use of court hearings as a live-testimony forum for sharing unresolved complaints relating to their marriage or domestic partnership dissolution with the other party in open court.  Instead, judges will sustain objections to such irrelevant material and parties who seek to use Family Court as a platform to air relationship grievances will find themselves alienating the trier of fact in ways that will have adverse consequences to them beyond just the time and expense of the exercise. 

The purpose of today's Blog is to introduce you to section 217 and the new changes.  I will follow up with more articles in coming weeks.  Without a doubt the new rules will make all the information I provide on my websites more relevant and timely for my readers. 

• Request for Joinder
• Pleading on Joinder
• Summons on Joinder

It is important to name the plan correctly.  The plan is a separate entity from the employer.  Next, they do need to be properly served per FC section 2062.

Within 30 days the plan must respond by a Notice of Appearance.  However, they rarely do.  If they fail to, the clerk must enter their default.  As a practical matter, the Plan will likely accept the order of the court or any settlement you reach thereafter so long as it meets the plan administrator's requirements.

Thurman W. Arnold III, CFLS

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Q.  My divorce seems like it has stalled.  My wife operates our family business, we own several properties including a commercial building and she collects the rents, she isn't cooperating with me on custody on our kids, and I need money to pay my attorney.  She is controlling this case, and I am getting nowhere.  Any recommendations?

TW Arnold
10/18/10

Q.    My husband has not updated his I & E for six months.  I know he is not reporting his income fairly.  How do I buy time so the Judge doesn't decide my support rights based upon outdated information?

A.  So here is a secret tip for my blog readers.  FL-150 Income and Expense Declarations (the I & E you reference) must be updated every 90 days in order to be current.

After some continuances on any support application, whether child or spousal support, these declarations become 'stale.'  Whether you need to stall for time or just want an honest representation from the other party, it is essential that all information be "current".

California Rule of Court, Rule 5.128(a) states as follows:  "'Current" is defined as being completed within the past three months providing no facts have changed. Those forms must be sufficiently completed to allow determination of the issue."

Any competent judge will listen to your argument that 'facts have changed' and require the other party to update their information. 

If you cite this rule you will impress them with your devotion to the law! 

You are entitled to a continuance (which you should use well, since it may be the last one).  Now may be the time to hire a lawyer....

Good luck!

• If you can, try to research CCP § 1008, including looking at some legal treatise or the reported appellate decisions that mention it
• New or different facts don't generally include things you forgot to mention, unless you have some really credible explanation of why you forgot
• You must explain to the Court what you learned, how and when you learned it, why you didn't learn it earlier, and why these new or different facts matter enough that the Court should render a different outcome.  If the other party withheld facts that you became aware of only after the hearing, you need to describe your reasonable diligence in having attempted to first get all the facts
• New facts are not the same as different facts.  Be specific
• Telling the judge you just think she was wrong is rarely helpful - judges know they will be wrong some of the time, and they are trained as much to just make a decision as to get it right (clearly they want to get it right).  Most of us don't like being told we are wrong and that is rarely a useful persuasive tool.  Instead, focus on the justice or injustice of the situation and be humble
• Explaining that you made a mistake without more is also risky, because lawyers and parties do make mistakes in presenting their cases but the law favors finality in decision-making.  Your  mistake needs to have been a reasonable one. 
• Always consider combining your reconsideration request with a request for relief under Code of Civil Procedure § 473, which is a very important statute that covers relief from orders or judgments that result from your inadvertence, surprise, mistake, or reasonable neglect

In your situation the question will be:  If you knew 10 days before the hearing that your time had been cut back, why didn't you mention it?  If you did mention it, then the Court considered your evidence and ruled against you, so this would not be new information. 

Also, how different would the outcome have been if the Court had considered or known of the cut backs in your work?  For instance, if those cut backs are partial and your income is 15% less than the Court supposed, this may not seem so important to the Judge that she thinks she needs to correct the unfairness of the result.  If it is 40% less, she might.  There are no hard and fast rules that can be applied with consistency.

It is quite common for clients to wind up hiring attorneys after they attempted to handle their case on their own, and it blew up at the hearing, and now they need desperately to get more or better information in front of the judge.  It is very difficult to "un-ring the bell." 

When these things happen they are a good lesson of why the adversarial court process is to be avoided whenever possible, and of the importance of finding and listening to a competent lawyer early on in your case.

Q.:  My wife moved to the desert with our two sons about 5 months ago. Up to that time, we were living together at our home near Watsonville in Santa Cruz county, where I still live. Yesterday she served me with a divorce petition filed in Indio, in Riverside County. 

•     The name of each witness for whom it will be inconvenient to testify;

•     The substance of their anticipated testimony;

•     The reasons why it would be inconvenient for the witnesses to appear in that court; and

•     Why the ends 'ends of justice' would be promoted by the requested change of venue.